I was six when my grandmother passed away, so I don’t remember much about her. What I can piece together is vague and, because of its lack of specificity, unsatisfying. I know that she had a large family and that she was one of just a few girls in a house dominated by brothers. I … Continue reading Sometimes They Come Back
Back in February I flew to Chicago for a friend's wedding. I was embarrassed that I couldn't afford the trip, but honored to be a bridesmaid. I wouldn't dare, couldn't dare cancel-- under any circumstances. In the past few years the bride had become like a sister to me: an inspiration who never set limits … Continue reading Save Tonight
When I was white, it wasn’t on purpose. It wasn’t intentional. It started because I was a square peg coveting circles. It started because I stuck out everywhere, even when I didn’t want the attention. Even when race and gender didn’t play a role. I just didn’t seem to belong anywhere. About seven years ago … Continue reading Black On Both Sides
My mother used to make our clothes when we were younger. In fifth grade my favorite was a black and green checkered pattern two-piece. The top fit like a suit jacket with box shoulders and mid-length sleeves. The bottoms were shorts that swam past my knees. Whenever I’d wear it, I’d get permission to wear … Continue reading Save Tonight.
I’ve always been entitled and spoiled, but I haven’t always admitted it. Too many people close to me told me I was special and capable of great things. I carried it with me. I used it as a pedestal. I used it as a crutch. I used it to stunt relationships, to leave jobs, and … Continue reading Day 7, Week 33: You Are The Last Dragon
When I moved to Chicago I was scared. I only brought a few essentials: books and shoes, anger-coated confidence. I was a stranger in a strange land, so I proceeded with caution. I harbored no expectations and packed very little fear. I meant to make a living not a life, but time is partial to entrapment. … Continue reading You Have to Build It
The Equal Justice Initiative works to protect basic human rights, to challenge economic and racial injustice, and to end mass incarceration in the United States. Based in Montgomery, Alabama, it was founded in 1989 by public interest lawyer and bestselling author, Bryan Stevenson. It is a private, nonprofit organization that provides re-entry assistance to individuals … Continue reading What Color Is Your Parachute: Part 2